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Thomas Butler Gunn Diaries: Volume 6, page 38, August 3, 1853

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Identifier: DX04065345

Title: Thomas Butler Gunn Diaries: Volume 6, page 38, August 3, 1853

Description: Describes a talk with John Whytal about his difficult marriage to Lotty.

When she [Charlotte Kidder Whytal] came back yesterday, you’d have thought she could have eaten me,” (a favourite phrase this of his [John Whytal’s].) “She had been so dull away from me.” And then there was a furious quarrel that night, about her not seeing that the child [Frederick Whytal] was properly cared for. “She’ll sit in the parlor, sing songs for the boarders and gentlemen visitors, and the child hasnt any fixings to his back.” He being really very fond of his child, gets irate and reviles her. She replies, telling him she degraded herself in wedding him, crys, seeks counsel of her mother [Rebecca Kidder] or others. “She has a row with her mother, and then comes to me, and quarrels with me, and goes to her mother! That’s how she does it !” sa quote poor Whytal. “It’s very wearisome! At all the houses we’ve boarded at she had snarls with the women. When I came home she’d a long story to tell, how she’d been abused by them. And then her imprudence would set all the men talking.” Fellows betted about her dishonor once, and Whytal afterwards heard of it. She will threaten to leave him. “You may go if you like!” he’ll say. “And if I take the child with me?” “I’d cut your damned head off!” Then she says “Two can play at that game!” Whytal, a common-place, spitting, good sort of mortal is fond of her, is really more tolerant of her self-will than might be expected. Right is on his side, after all. [words crossed out] He married her in single heartedness; did not she rush into extremes she might do as she [likes?]. But had he any elevated passion for her, (which he isn’t capable of) ‘twould fall in stony places, and never bring forth fruit, I doubt.

Rights: NoC-US

Place: United States
New York

Dates: 1853-08-03

Type(s): Diary
Page

Maker/Creator: Gunn, Thomas Butler, 1826-1903

Subjects: Diaries
Marriage
Women
Boardinghouses
19th century

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